Having had children, I know firsthand how absolutely precious life is. From conception to birth, I’ve manufactured (as my son calls it) 3 human beings. Although none of my pregnancies were an absolute breeze, the moment I laid eyes on each one of my tiny human beings, I found another depth of love I didn’t even know possible. Life itself is incredible. But that’s not to say, by any means, life is always easy. In fact, I’m pretty sure that it is universally agreeable to say that life is unbelievably challenging. But I’ve said it a million times and I will continue to say it – life is absolutely worth living… bumps, bruises, births and all. And you don’t necessarily have to had produced a human for that to apply 😉
*Insert the inevitable “pivots of life”
You’ve probably heard Nathan and I use the word pivot quite a bit lately because it is 100% applicable to our lives on any given day. Life throws us a lot of curveballs, so we’ve had to get a bigger mitt to catch them over the years. Although I certainly haven’t reached big league skill level, I really do try my best to take a pause and filter out any immediate emotional and/or negative thoughts when things don’t go how I planned, but sometimes that’s just a bit easier said then done. I always want to believe the best. I have hope for the future. I have big dreams. But there’s a part of me that, because of how much swimming upstream we do, it’s tough to feel like we are getting ahead of the waves. There is a vulnerability that comes with the belief and faith in things to come because we often can’t predict our future, and that same vulnerability can, every once in a while, make me feel adrift among the changing of the tides.
But Brené Brown (a fantastic speaker) has such a powerful quote about vulnerability that I’d like to share.
“Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness; it’s our greatest measure of courage”.
The truth is, there will always be curveballs. The changing tide is inevitable. Sometimes we’ve been treading in what feels like an ocean for so long, we don’t recognize our progress to realize we’ve actually reached close enough ashore, we can put our feet down. But even in the changing of course, in the roughest waters, there can be moments of calm if we allow for them and/or make them happen. It’s in the moments of quiet and reflection when we can truly see our strength, see how far we’ve come, and find the courage to keep the faith and hope in our futures alive, despite how many pivots we might have to make.
That’s life… ever-changing, yet always precious.
Go to the comment section and let me know how you handle your pivot. What helps you when things don’t go as planned? What is one piece of advice you would like to share with all of us in the CC community?
And finally… a suggestion: Pop over to the ZenDen. Pick for yourself a song (just one) that gives you that feeling of calm and just sit. Just be. You can focus on something in particular if you want but I recommend that if you do, just pick one thing. No problem solving, just chill and breathe. It’s all about taking the time for yourself. I will do the same. I’m still working on keeping my mind at rest for longer than 30 second spurts but hey, it takes practice.