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Ronnie posted in the group We Are More Than Our Mental Health
Ugh, my old friends reached out to me. Just when I was discussing them in therapy last week out of nowhere they text me. What gives?
I am just a mix of emotions right now. I’m confused, I’m angry, I’m hurt. I don’t know which emotion is the strongest right now. I spent so much time reaching out without getting responses and now they do this? To top it off they want to meet up this summer and honestly, I’m not sure if I want to.
I still haven’t forgiven them for not being there during the most traumatic experience in my life. Instead of offering support and solace, they got angry that I couldn’t tell them about my situation even though legally I wasn’t allowed to. Our friendship just changed after that.
I still have a couple of months to decide if I want to meet them, but even then I feel that’s kind of rushed so I might try to get out of it.
I’m barely getting my life together and trying to move forward without them, but now they reach out. It makes no sense. I don’t think I can handle it.
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I had not even considered it as a way of closure. That might be something to consider in all of this. I have been so focused on myself lately in terms of healing that maybe this idea of closure could work. It just hurts so much that they weren’t there for me when I needed them to be. We’d known each other since we were 14 and then when the accident happened they got angry that I legally could not tell them for a year. Ever since then our friendship just fell apart. They don’t know me anymore.
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If you truly don’t want to meet up with them that’s completely within your right. The best advice I can offer is would you look back on this as a what if? At the very least it could be an opportunity to gain closure, but again it’s completely your decision!