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    Adrienne posted in the group Finding Our Way

    10 months, 4 weeks ago

    Hello and Welcome to Finding
    Our Way (FOW)…if you haven’t
    seen CC’s latest post please
    give it a read, but for now, let me give up a brief insight as to why we have kicked off this new group. Children are the future of
    change and we truly believe it is important to provide them with a solid foundation to help navigate this world. FOW emphasizes the mental, physical and spiritual health of children while also providing resources to families about a range of topics. This is both a place for fun and education as well as community. So let’s get started: what healthy conversation would you like to start with your families?

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    • One conversation we seem to deal with a lot is social media for children younger than thirteen. My grandson is constantly trying to add more connection sites, such as snapchat, because his friends have it. It is a challenge to find the balance and still protect them.

      • While social media can be positive—it is also has negative impacts. Limiting screen time and communicating with the children about what they are doing online is a beneficial conversation to have. We can assure them that should they ever feel uncomfortable—-they can talk to us. We can also manage the content they are seeing to ensure what they are seeing is suitable for their age. Setting boundaries for the children in our lives is important but we don’t want to limit them entirely especially if social media is used as a way to communicate with their friends…making their account private, their age and how responsible they are can impact this decision. It is our job as the adults in their lives to maintain their safety and sometimes that comes with boundaries and limit setting.

      • That is a discussion that I definitely want to open up here. I don’t know what the right answer is, but I witness the same struggle happening with my younger cousins. And I agree there needs to be a balance when it comes to social media.

      • While social media can be positive—it is also has negative impacts. Limiting screen time and communicating with the children about what they are doing online is a beneficial conversation to have. We can assure them that should they ever feel uncomfortable—-they can talk to us. We can also manage the content they are seeing to ensure what they are seeing is suitable for their age. Setting boundaries for the children in our lives is important but we don’t want to limit them entirely especially if social media is used as a way to communicate with their friends…making their account private, their age and how responsible they are can impact this decision. It is our job as the adults in their lives to maintain their safety and sometimes that comes with boundaries and limit setting.

    • I’m not around kids at all. I don’t interact with them, don’t have any younger cousins and I don’t spend much time with my step-nephew. Not sure how much I’ll be able to contribute, but maybe I can try to add in what we do talk about in my family and how or what I wish had been talked about growing up. Taking it that route, one topic that my family emphasizes the most is mental health, specifically mental illness. I’m the type of person who views the two as separate entities. Mental health is a state of mind while mental illness is chemical imbalances that are out of a person’s control except with guided therapy and/or medication. Growing up I used to tell my parents that there was “something wrong with my brain” (my exact words). As a middle school/high school student, I did not have the words for it and we never talked about mental health or mental illness in school, let alone in my family. Ever since my diagnoses of Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Severe Depression, Bipolar 1 (and more currently PTSD) we talk about it more frequently. I see on the news or hear stories about how kids are struggling so much more with those two issues. They’re becoming endemics in and of their own. I think the topics are slowly being talked about, but there is still such a stigma when it comes to mental illness in particular. People don’t want to think there is something chemically wrong with their minds especially since they are illnesses that cannot be seen. If a person tells another that they have cancer they get sympathy and understanding. If a person tells another that their brain is wired differently then there is a shame attached. Okay I could go on, but this is long enough.

      • I think mental health is so important and should be advocated for regardless of how young or old. Some ways we can talk to children about mental health includes implementing daily affirmation, giving them breaks, having conversations about their day and helping them to recognize and regulate their emotions. We should also consider that sometimes children won’t want to have a conversation but we can provide them with alternative ways to share how they are feeling—-drawing a picture, or writing in a journal. The stigma behind mental health/illness is a real thing and by implementing and talking openly with children about these things—-we can hope that the stigma diminishes over time.

      • I think mental health is so important and should be advocated for regardless of how young or old. Some ways we can talk to children about mental health includes implementing daily affirmation, giving them breaks, having conversations about their day and helping them to recognize and regulate their emotions. We should also consider that sometimes children won’t want to have a conversation but we can provide them with alternative ways to share how they are feeling—-drawing a picture, or writing in a journal. The stigma behind mental health/illness is a real thing and by implementing and talking openly with children about these things—-we can hope that the stigma diminishes over time.

    • Debbie and Carson, I’m with you both when it comes to social media. Heck even technology for younger kids in general. I can still remember years ago (and I’m talking like 8 yrs or so) when my aunt gave her son, my cousin, her cell phone to use and he was only 2! I’ve never been a fan of electronic babysitters. I believe there should be limits. Growing up my parents only allowed us up to 2 or 3 hrs. a day on the computer (of course that was in the mid-90s, early 2000s when computers were barely becoming a household thing, but still). I certainly think there need to be stricter limits now especially when it comes to social media. You hear so many cases on the news about young girls becoming anorexic because of the toxicity they see online on the need to be thin. You hear of so many suicides because kids are being bullied online. At what point does parenting and other limits need to be enforced or set since kids are dying at alarming rates?

      • I think it’s okay when little kids use their tablets just for learning like playing games to learn their ABCs and stuff. Little kids shouldn’t be on social media at all. I don’t have kids but if I did I’d let them start having it at 12 years old but for a limited amount of time. I do think they should always have a phone though in case of emergency.

        • As I am currently taking a children’s mental health course, there was a study I read where electronic use has no benefit at all under the age of 3. As an educator who has worked mostly with infants and toddlers. I have never been a fan of allowing the kids to watch or play something on the tablet. The tablet was used for music and if there was a corresponding music video I turned the tablet around. These limits are important and I believe 13 is an appropriate age to begin using social media. However, and especially with the dangers of social media, limiting their site access and apps use until they’re 18 could be beneficial. Unfortunately, it’s the younger generation that is really suffering from what they learn on social media

        • As I am currently taking a children’s mental health course, there was a study I read where electronic use has no benefit at all under the age of 3. As an educator who has worked mostly with infants and toddlers. I have never been a fan of allowing the kids to watch or play something on the tablet. The tablet was used for music and if there was a corresponding music video I turned the tablet around. These limits are important and I believe 13 is an appropriate age to begin using social media. However, and especially with the dangers of social media, limiting their site access and apps use until they’re 18 could be beneficial. Unfortunately, it’s the younger generation that is really suffering from what they learn on social media

    • Speaking from a youth worker POV, I’d love to have more open conversations about gender, sexuality and sex ed! It’s definitely a big topic, and it changes so often and it also heavily ties into wellbeing and self-care. I know to kids it’s something to snigger at or hide away from (I remember in school doing it myself!), but it was brushed over and kind of just left… which I really would love to help reshape.

      • I definitely agree. There is such a stigma behind all of these. Children feel uncomfortable talking about this and by reshaping conversations and bringing awareness to it we can make it easier to talk about. One of the things we would like to focus on with FOW is the LGBTQ+ youth in the community.

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